“But shouldn’t I be better now? Shouldn’t I be over this?” “I’ve been working through this for months (or years)… how much longer until I have…” I get asked these questions quite often, especially for those coming through a destructive situation, a toxic environment, or a season of burnout. When you go through intense emotions…
Some “messy middle” seasons feel like they’ll never end. The fatigue is long.The overwhelm is real.The messy is complicated.The anxiety is pressing. The hurt is real, heavy, and buried deep. We can feel like every single page of our stories is one hard thing after another. And yet, we get up. We’re still showing up,…
I just poured another cup of coffee. I needed something warm to put my hands on as I prayerfully process and write this post. You might need some coffee because I have a feeling this is a long one. These words have been weighing on my mind for a few weeks now. I’ve had my…
The idea of doing your own work, your own individual work is floating around, filtering into conversations about life, relationships, faith and entering just about every area of personal growth. Doing your own work is incredibly important. Focusing on yourself and doing the individual work is a big part of maturing and growing throughout your…
As a Christian Life Coach, I love the work that we get to do together. {I’ll preview that work farther down in the post!} Whether in person or on zoom, life coaching sessions can inspire growth and health, while offering practical steps as you move forward in your life. You might be in a place…
I had another “still more healing to do” moment. Recently, while sitting with friends, I was sharing. I felt myself getting passionate about the topic, wanting to explain, be heard, and share a story. Once again, my face was getting red and I knew this was another moment to remember where I am on my…
There are real, practical, and helpful steps of healing and change. It can seem murky, fuzzy, impossible, or like riding a roller coaster sometimes. Is change and healing possible? Whether you’re hoping for a change in weight before summer or a way out of burnout or a different relationship dynamic with a spouse or friend,…
Recently, with my personal story running in the background, get joy moments have been precious, needed, and absolutely just for fun. I love recognizing moments that bring me joy! In counseling or coaching, we would call these get joy moments “glimmers” or happy, joyful, life giving things and recognize them as an opposite to a…
According to wikipedia, the concept of death by a thousand cuts was started as a form of torture and execution. In modern day, this death by a thousand cuts can be used in psychology to refer to the way negative, harmful situations or actions may happen slowly and feel like many small paper cuts. These…
I don’t think I’ve ever really thought about how easy or hard introducing myself is or isn’t until recently. I’m noticing a horrible trend where my face fires up a deep red and I feel my neck getting spotty while I stutter over my words, trying to figure out what to say for that situation…