Finding Hope, Growth, and Faith in the Messy Middle

Some “messy middle” seasons feel like they’ll never end.

The fatigue is long.
The overwhelm is real.
The messy is complicated.
The anxiety is pressing.

The hurt is real, heavy, and buried deep.

We can feel like every single page of our stories is one hard thing after another.

And yet, we get up. We’re still showing up, still moving forward, still breathing in the grace for one more day.

I think of the women I get to walk with in coaching—some aren’t sure they’ll ever get back up, others know they will but have no idea what it’s going to look like when they do.

What happens to community when you step outside of it?

What happens to friends when something really devastating happens?

How do you talk about pain, trauma, dysfunction, abuse, or toxic dynamics in ways that people can hear and understand?

How do you stop defending and explaining while holding boundaries and healing your nervous system?

What happens when you stop and your world blows up?

These are not quick-fix moments. They are brave, slow, and deeply personal moments.

This is the messy middle of healing.

It’s the space between the breaking and the breakthrough, where everything feels uncertain and yet God is still doing His deep, unseen work.

Hosea 10:12 says, “Break up your unplowed ground.”

Coaching is often where that breaking happens—where someone helps you notice what’s been left untouched, where growth, healing, and depth are waiting if you’re willing to do the work.

Sometimes that work starts in a quiet conversation over Zoom.

Sometimes it’s a deep-dive intensive that helps you uncover what’s been buried under years of “just surviving.”

Sometimes it’s simply showing up week after week, letting the small shifts add up.

It’s trying softer, trying slower, being still.

And here’s the beauty of it: true individual work doesn’t stay contained to you.

It ripples out into your relationships, your work, your home, your family. It builds trust and safety. It restores what was frayed.

I’ve seen women step into stronger boundaries, more peace in their homes, greater clarity in their calling. I’ve seen them find joy again—right in the middle of the hard.

I’ve experienced it myself over the past five years of stopping, releasing, and trusting.

Because joy isn’t something you wait for until the hard is over.

It’s something you choose, right here in the messy middle.

I don’t know where you are at in this process or what God is digging up in the unplowed ground of your heart.

I don’t know what emotions are at play, what parts of you are anxious and exhausted.

You might not know either.

It’s something we can discover in coaching. Whether your next step is booking an intensive, committing to weekly or bi-weekly coaching sessions, or simply journaling about where you are right now, take it.

Take the next right step forward.

You don’t have to have the whole plan. You just have to keep turning the page.